• Bethany

    So true and such a tough lesson to learn so young. Good uncle.

    • It was Bethany, and yet it was still a positive lesson for me to learn. 🙂

  • Susan Cooper

    He was the best Uncle one could ever have had. It is always amazing to me what sticks with us as a lesson such as this one.

  • Elizabeth

    Hi Susan… This was the most inspiring post. How many times have I been guilt of the same mentalality??? God answers our prayers we just need to be open to the answer. thank you for reminding me of that!!!

    • He was the best Uncle one could ever have had Elizabeth. It’s always amazing to me what sticks with us as a lesson over time. 🙂

  • Pingback: ()

  • You are lucky to have an uncle who took so much time to talk to you! As my daughter is now eleven, she is often asking for things that get a no. I love how your uncle explained so gently that prayer can sometimes get a no. I haven’t heard her try prayer, however.

    • He was a very special uncle and that’s why he was my favorite Leora. When your daughter does start praying, this may be helpful. 😀

      Sometimes, understand what a “no” really is and means is a good thing at any age… LOL. 🙂

  • Susan, prayer seems to be a way of life with me – not just asking for things, direction or guidance but I will also find myself thanking God for something beautiful I see or someone special I encounter. I love your story and you were very fortunate to have such a special uncle.
    Lenie

    • Hi Lenie, Thank you so much. I do too now. There are times we miss the obvious, as I did at that time. When someone points it out, it’s a bit of shock. I was indeed very lucky to have had an uncle like that. 🙂

  • Scottmhuntington

    Great post! Has happened to me way too many times, especially a time when I was trying to find a new job. Really teaches patience for sure.

    • Hi Scott, Thanks, I think it is the same for many of us. We want to hear what we want to hear and forget that it may not be what we need. 🙂

  • Jeri Walker-Bickett

    I was a horse crazy girl, but I never got my horse. My dad used to have one before I was born though. I’d still like to own one someday, but horses require a lot of upkeep. Now that I’m older, I’m glad that I was told no enough times by my parents so that I learned to think about what it really meant to want something.

    • Hi Jeri, When a kid wants something, common sense isn’t part of the equation. When we finally understand, it’s a revelation to them. I do hope that you get your horse some day, but this time you’ll know what you’re getting into. :-).

  • I always wanted a piano when I was growing up, but my parent said I wouldn’t practise. I’m musically inclined and taught myself to play the guitar, and even performed a few times. I bought myself a synthesizer in my 30’s , and half learned to play, but then life took over. I still feel if I’d have learned as a child I would have stuck with it. I’m not religious myself , but I think this quote from the Rolling Stones fits in with what you’re saying Susan- “You can’t always get what you want….But you can try sometimes, and you might just find, you get what you need.”

    • Hi A. K. I have always loves those lyrics. I think it’s for the reasons my uncle explained. It’s funny how things work out, isn’t it? You know you could try it again, who knows, it might become a new passion for you. 🙂

  • Pat Ruppel

    Hi Susan – enjoyed your story and understand the hopes and dreams of a child. We can quickly come down to earth and feel crushed when your expectations may not be met. It reminds me of a prayer about a horse I had I think I’ll have to write a story about, though I wasn’t a child – hmmmm. Like you, the answer was no but not exactly. The answer came in the way of a dream. I’ll have to keep you posted.

    • Hi Pat, It’s an interesting thing how we receive our answers. They can come in the most unexpected ways. Your horse story has intrigued me. I can’t wait to hear it.

      • Pat Ruppel

        It is, Susan, interesting. I like yours — straight and to the point. It’s when they come in other forms that opens it up for interpretation. I’m going to have to dig through some of my journals. I think I remember it but want to follow up and make sure. Stay tuned.

        • I think it would be a fun read. I can’t wait to read it. 🙂

          • Pat Ruppel

            Me too (lol) once it’s done. I’ll be working on it. Thanks Susan.

          • Pat Ruppel

            Done, Susan. Got it up there now. Hope you like it. Thank you for being the inspiration for my posting this.

          • I just read it and I loved it. :)))

          • Pat Ruppel

            Thanks, Susan. I’m glad you enjoyed it. You were the inspiration in trading horse stories. Happy Memorial Day. Stay safe. 🙂

  • Junie

    Hi susan,

    I came over to your blog from Adrienne’s blog. I love your story. And I can relate to your prayer.

    A few years ago, my fiance at the time, had to leave the country because of some immigration issues. I was on my knees praying every night for us to be reunited. I even made a covenant with God. But every time my fiance applied for a visa, he was turned down.

    At the time I didn’t realise God was saying no. But after praying for nearly 5 years, God showed me in a dream that he wasn’t the right man for me. I was upset. But I’ve moved on and we’re still friends.

    It’s hard when we pray and God says no. But it’s always for a good reason. He knows best. 🙂

    • Hi Junie and welcome, Your story touched me. It’s not always easy to hear the answer no. Many times it’s truly what we need and it’s a very good thing we haven’t been given our wish. Still, it’s hard. 🙂

  • Adrienne

    I love that answer Susan and your Uncle Don is a very smart man. If only we got that type of reasoning when we were kids instead of our parents just saying “because I said so”.

    I don’t remember praying for a lot when I was young. When my parents told me no that was the end of it and I usually let it go. I learned throughout my life that things aren’t what make us happy and like you I prefer to pray for guidance and of course my family and friends. I always have to say a special prayer for them all.

    Wonderful story and thank you for sharing it with us.

    ~Adrienne

    • Hi Adrienne, When we’re small, our wishes are the only thing that matters. My uncle was able to show me that wasn’t always the case. It’s too bad that others don’t understand that. If they did, I truly believe they would be much happier all around, don’t you?

  • Debra Yearwood

    Great story Susan and one with a lesson we all need to be reminded of. Isn’t it funny how the answer “no” can elude us. I’ll have to remember that the next time I’m clamouring for something that doesn’t work out.

    • Hi Debra, Yep, I find myself needing reminding from time to time too. I agree, sometimes I think we get what we desire only to find out that it wasn’t good for us or what we needed. 🙂

  • Jacqueline Gum

    It;s a wonderful story! I hung on every word…but when I got to the meat of it…the “no” I was complete flummoxed! You see my father once told me the exact same thing, albeit with a bit of an ironic smile. He said…”Have you ever considered that the answer to your prayer might be no?” My second thought was that I don’t remember what I was asking for, but the most profound thought was “Is this what Presbyterian’s teach? Because I’m also a Presbyterian and my dad was a deacon in our church!!!!! I completely love this 🙂 Completely!

    • Hi Jacquie, WOW, that is really cool, because my uncle was a Presbyterian Minster. I think you may be on to something there. I am so glad you loved it.

  • Mission0ps

    Hi Susan & peeps – I just wanted to check .. I know I’m a bad man. When I was here yesterday the discuss wasn’t playing so I decided to share this story on Twitter via the coolio plugin Susan has installed called SumoMe>

    Does that show up on the post above for you too – or just for me? I shared the line…

    “Not all we desire and ask for is what we should have or what we really need” Heard that from my mom too many times 🙂

    Does that “quote”show up ON the post above for you too – or just for me?

    • Hi Mission, The Twitter share and quote did show up and thank you for that. It is a cool plugin, isn’t it? It is phrase that never gets old, does it. 🙂

      • Mission0ps

        Hi Susan,
        Cheers for the info – much appreciated, and you’re so right that’s just one of them that’s timeless.

        I’ll be seeing ya!

  • Balln Chainz

    This is Jay,

    Very good write up. I could see you asking for that horse and getting on your parents nerves. I can also see the anticipation you had when your uncle took that long pause. You uncle was correct. so many times people don’t see Gods answer because they aren’t willing to accept the fact that God said no..

    • Hi Balin, That is so true. We think because we want something we should or will receive it, when it fact that isn’t the case. It is a lesson that is repeated many times in our lives. 🙂

  • Hi Susan: Lovely post and illustrations as usual. I love the lesson contained in your story. Life is filled with such valuable lessons. We just have to open our ears and our hearts and they will be revealed to us. Thx for reminding us.

    • Thanks Doreen. I so agree, the key is to truly keep our ears, eyes and hearts open and accepting. That isn’t always the easiest thing to do. 🙂

  • Sometimes I don’t realize it but when I get something different than what I pray for, it’s in my best interest. So to me the “no” translates to, “here is something better for you.” Lovely story Susan.

    • Hi Patricia, I know exactly what you mean. Many times it’s after the fact that we realize the answer was right there in front of us all the time and, as you said, an even better opportunity then we thought we desired. :-).

  • What a touching story, Susan. It’s interesting that so often we pray to God for the material things in life, so of course He’ll often say no. How much do we need? More important, as you say, to pray for guidance and to pray for our friends and loved ones. I like ducking into St. Patrick’s Cathedral here in NY when I have a chance to light a candle and pray for my late husband, and now my late brother ,and my family and friends. It’s very peaceful and rewarding.

    • Thanks Jeannette, I think we all do that at times but are true answers do lie in when we ask for guidance. I love that you do that and I do the very same thing at times. Hugs. 🙂

  • Oh what a great story, I did enjoy this post yes I am glad you shared this story

    • I somehow knew you would like this story Jo-Anne. I’m so glad you did. 🙂

  • Jon Jefferson

    I am reminded of a few years ago when I stopped in to visit the pastor of the church we went to at the time. There was quite a bit on my mind and much I needed to release. But something happened when he asked me how I was doing. Instead of unburdening myself on him I spoke of things going right in my life. It wasn’t easy at first but the more talked of the blessings in our life the weight was lifted.

    Turned out we both had some heavy burdens that day. We both needed that moment to remember the good things.

    Strange the memories we can spark in each other at times. Thanks for the story.

    • That is a wonderful story Jon, I agree, sometimes when we need something the most somehow a solution appears and we are better able to find our way. I am so glad that the weight was lifted and you were able to help someone else in the process. 🙂

  • Jacs Henderson

    Beautiful story Susan… I love the innocence of your thoughts and the belief your uncle could help you … my heart stopped, just waiting to hear what he said to you .. and then felt sad … just like when I was told no by my parents! But how real was that answer!! We are not here to have everything we want … but I think that was very kind of Uncle Don to teach you that lesson in such a gentle (but firm) way. I think we often miss meanings when we hit barriers so thank you for that reminder to look for the answers in a different way.
    Jacs

    • Thank you so much Jacs. He was a very special uncle and one I still think of very fondly. It does take awhile to learn that lesson at times. There are times I find myself repeating that lesson because I’m to self-absorbed to see it. Then I remember my uncle Don and it all comes back to me. Thank you for sharing your thoughts my friend. 🙂

  • Paul Graham

    Hi Susan. I don’t know if you use the expression in the U.S …. Brits don’t … but in Canada a Charlie Horse is a painful leg cramp often associated with a sports injury. One more reason that “No !” was good answer in this case.

    • Hi Paul, LOL, We do use that term and you are so right, yet another reason for the answer “NO”. 😀

  • Cheryl Therrien

    That’s a big lesson for a child, ‘sometimes the answer is no’. You had a very wise uncle indeed. This is a lesson I think some adults could benefit from as well.

    • Indeed that is true Cheryl, With the our desire to have everything yesterday, we miss that it’s not always a good thing if we get what we asked for. 🙂

  • Hi Susan,
    I love this story and your art work is adorable. I think if God were to give us everything we ask for, He would be like a magic genie in a lamp.

    I think there is an even deeper lesson in this story. In answering, “No,” we often fail to see what it is God is protecting us from.

    Kind Regards,
    Bill

    • Hi Bill, Thanks so much… happy dance… :-))). I so agree with you. It would not have been a good thing at all if I had received that horse, that’s for sure. 🙂

  • Great educational story Susan. I know this feeling of being told the answer to a request is no. And you have already figured out everything that only goes with a yes. I have been there as well but life lessons have now taught me to always prepare for the possibility of a yes or a no. Life is about those two words many a times.

    • Hi Welli, Thanks so much. We so live in a yes or no world, don’t we. When we can figure out what’s really important versus what isn’t, we would be much happier lot. 🙂

  • Rebecca Thompson

    As always a gorgeous story.
    I feel like my prayers are not being answered many times, but I also know that I have to trust that, that is because I am not asking for the right thing that will help me to get where I should be.
    It is a very hard thing to get your head around, particularly if it creates so much turmoil and hurt, although I can think of the time with a past boyfriend where I didn’t want the relationship to end. Thank the lord it did or I would not have found my fabulous husband and would be stuck with a person who didn’t end up being the person I thought they were.

    • Thanks Rebecca, I know what you mean. It’s hard sometimes, but we do need to trust that the right answer will come, given patience and time. 🙂

  • I always learn something new about you when I read your stories Susan. I like that! Love the simplicity and dimension in your artwork too. For me when it came to praying for a family of my own, the answer was, “Be patient – I have some work to do on you first” 🙂

    • Hi Heather, Aw what a kind thing to say. I think I’ve heard the very same thing at times… LOL. 🙂