• Anonymous

    I Love the jelly bean analogy. It could apply to many things.

  • Dan Meyers

    I've made the mistake quite a few times of jumping to conclusions about people before I have even talked to them! My opinions could be based on historical comparisons, observable traits, or even shallower reasons such as looks. One thing usually tends to be true… my opinions usually end up incorrect after I get to know the person!

    Sometimes things work out for a reason if this company was so unreasonable as to believe you purposefully ignored them, I don't think the environment would be that great to work in anyway!

    • We are all guilty of that from time to time Dan, me included. In the end I believe you were right at the time I was immersed in the process and couldn’t see it. 🙂

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  • Margaret Duarte

    Well said. In life, so much goes on behind the scenes that we don't know about. Which is often a good thing (Too much information!). But we tend to fill in the gap (or should I say mystery?) with our own renderings of what may or may not have happened–often to our own detriment. As you know, I love your illustrations. These, in particular, will insure that the jelly bean analogy sticks with me.

    • How true that is Margaret. In the end we do figure it all out, don’t we? Thanks for you thoughts and kind words. it pleases me that you like my drawings. 🙂

  • commemoryfineart

    I'm glad you wrote about this Susan and I hope you feel better if nothing for getting it 'on paper' and out there for others to benefit from.

    I love what Dan and Margaret said. That basically you are better off not being there so that you can share your gift with others ;-). Fruit flavors are my favorite too – especially Jelly Belly pear.

    • Aw, thank you Bethany, You are such a great friend and I agree with you about the choice I’ve made since made. Who doesn’t like a good fruit flavored jelly bean 🙂

  • Elizabeth

    You are so right. I too have been in this situation. As hard as it is during the interaction… Looking at it this way makes a lot of sense. Remember the saying
    Life is short… Eat desert first. Jelly beans make a great desert. Thanks for the great read.

    • Thanks Elizabeth, I wouldn’t have persisted unless My mentor had encouraged me to do so. I think Jelly beans are fun. 🙂

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  • Susan — you’re courageous for continuing to press on with this company. I think I would have smelled a rat and crossed them off. Maybe the position was one you really wanted, but I think you were better off without them. What often happens is that a job is already “wired,” that is, they have a candidate the want to hire but the company makes them go through the screening process because of anti-discrimination laws.

    • Hi Jeannette, I would have passed the whole thing up had it not be for the persistence of my mentor. In the end I do believe it worked out for the best. I know it has for me. If it had been the other way, I may have not met you and that would have been a very sad thing. 🙂

  • HomeJobsbyMOM

    I can see the comparison with jelly beans and opinions. I don’t really like jelly beans though and opinions I typically keep them to myself unless asked.

    • I thought you might Kryslte, and I try to do the same. It’s not always easy though. I’m not a big jelly bean fan either, except when using them with a fun recipe or creation. 🙂

  • Difficult choices come at us from all sides, and when you’re stuck between a rock & a hard place it’s tough. Well done on persevering. I like the red ones!!

    • Thanks A.K. It isn’t always easy, but in the end we do find ourselves on the right path. I like the red one’s too. 🙂

  • Paul Graham

    Susan, regrettably this happens more often than we would like. It seems quite possible they had already selected a candidate and you were just part of a process. My takeaway is that companies treating people badly or having a hidden agenda during the recruitment phase are unlikely to treat them better if hired, so however appealing the position I think you dodged a bullet. I think opinions are more like a variety box of chocolates, because if you close my eyes jelly beans seem to taste pretty much the same

    • Hi Paul, I believe that was the case. Sadly I would have been ok with that if they had just said so or something the that affect. It was indeed a bullet I happily dodged. 🙂

  • Jon Jefferson

    I’ve never been one for jelly beans, but my mother has always loved them. Odd as I remember this, she really liked the black licorice flavored ones. That strong anise flavor has always been one to turn me off. That is until I found other sources of it that changed a bit world I saw.

    Sometimes a different opinion viewed in a different light can change your world.

    • Indeed that is so true Jon. For the record not everyone likes jelly beans but in this case my mentor did, so it fit. 🙂

  • Hi Susan: Yes, I recently had a friend offer her unsolicited advice on a personal matter. I know she was trying to help, but I think her pre-conceived notions got in the way of her better judgement and her “advice” was way off base. I politely listened to her, but knew I wouldn’t take the advice. Very soon after that, I offered her some unsolicited advice on a completely different matter and rec’d a rather rude response that she “knew how to take care of herself!” I reminded her that friends sometimes offer unsolicited advice, but that it should be rec’d with the kindness it was given.

    • Hi Doreen, I find that too funny. I too find that when someone offers unsolicited advise, generally speaking, they aren’t able or can’t take advise from others when offered in return. 🙂

  • Susan- Everyone has an opinion but that doesn’t make it right or wrong. When we take everyone’s opinion it can drive you nuts. I love your jelly bean analogy. I have been working with my dachshund in agility and obedience. I can’t tell you all the opinions I have been given. I have even been told to get an agility dog like a border collie. Many of the opinions I don’t ask for. I mistakenly took the opinions which was a disaster. I was driving my dog and myself nuts trying to do what everyone suggested. I finally decided not to listen to anyone and we are doing so much better. I learned a very big lesson. You can listen to others opinion but make up your mind.

    • Hi Arleen, Boy isn’t that the truth. Aw, you and your poor puppy. I am so glad you got that sorted out and life got back to what it should be. 🙂

  • Debra Yearwood

    Here are a few of my frequently used comments on opinions.
    – If you can’t get a date, you can always get an opinion.
    – There are opinions and then there are opinions, always consider the source.
    – Opinions are like (insert appropriate body part here) everyone has one.

    There is never a shortage of opinions. When I started working in communications I was amazed by all the people that had an opinion on what worked and what didn’t despite the fact that they had no experience or education in the area. Now I just shrug and wait to manage the fall out if they choose to do something ill advised. That may make me sound horrible, but reality is, not all opinions matter and more often than not they reflect the mood of the moment then considered thought.

    • Indeed, Opinions are very plentiful and are never in short supply. I hear you about shrugging off what someone says without experience. Sometimes you just can’t confused them with the facts… LOL.

  • Everyone has an opinion myself included but guess what some of us keep our opinion to ourselves because we don’t feel the need to bash people over the head with my opinion, sometimes we should keep our opinions to ourselves unless asked what we think. Jelly beans I like jelly beans I just don’t eat them very often because well I am diabetic and can’t eat a lot of sugar filled sweets.

    • Yep, Keeping our opinions to ourselves at times in a good thing Jo-Anne. It can save the peace… 😀

  • Jeri Walker-Bickett

    I can be an opinion-happy monster at times, but I do try to keep it under wraps. It depends on the situation too. If I’m going to be in my zone like talking about elements of writing, I’ll always throw my two cents in. If it’s something outside my scope of expertise, I’m more likely to let it slide. I’m always interested in hearing from the other side…

    • You?… never… LOL. I think we all find ourselves that way at times. I know I do. :D. Taking the time to see the other side does pay off, doesn’t it? 🙂

  • The jellybean analogy is great. I might change it to a box of chocolates though because I’m addicted to chocolate 😉 But what a good way to describe the situation without going into all the details that like you said “are over it”.

    • Thanks Christine, I’m with you on the chocolates, me too. :-))) It took me while, but I thought it worked too. 🙂

  • Cheryl Therrien

    Opinions & Jelly Beans. Yup. That’s right. There are lots of them. There are people who have opinions about me that could not be further from the truth, but then again those are their opinions and not mine. Sometimes you just have to let it go because, well… Lots of Jelly Beans out there my friend.

    • So true. The same goes for me. I just can’t figure out where they come from… LOL. Your the best to me, but I’m prejudice. 🙂

  • Jacs Henderson

    Ha! Jelly Beans are just like Opinions – all different – even the ones that look the same have their individual blemishes and colour waves (I did once have a very large box,sectioned off into about 30 different colours and flavours…which I tipped over and then I put them all back into their sections! – sad,I know – but I got a close look at them!) Opinions on one certain situation usually range from one extreme to another … and come from so many different coloured jelly beans… best to let go of the flavours you don’t like .. Just like you did my wise friend 🙂

    • Yep Jacs, opinions in certain situations usually can have an extreme range, just like the different colored jelly beans. It’s not easy to let go of the different “flavors”, but there are times we must. 🙂