• Beth

    Thank you for this – I can relate in so, so many ways. Very insightful and brave. Keep it up!

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      Thanks Beth, You have been such an inspiration for me throughout the last two years so thank you for that my friend. :-)

  • Susan Cooper

    Thank you. I greatly appreciate your comment

  • http://www.carolbalawyder.com/ Carol Balawyder

    A very motivating post. We are so much in the habit of always doing something, afraid to miss out on life that when we have some spare time we panic instead of simply enjoying this time. Being grateful that we are alive and have this time on our hands.

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      Hi Carol and welcome, That is so very true. By doing that we actually miss what we are trying the achieve perpetuating the our fear. If we can just slow done take a moment we can see what is really important and then hopefully move in that direction. :-) What are you grateful for?

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      That is so true Carol. If we can just let go of the fear, just think how wonderful our time would feel. It would allow us the opportunity to be grateful in stead of fritting so much. :-)

  • http://biz.leoraw.com/about/ Leora Wenger

    I suppose for me the list is easy – there’s usually some artwork on it. It’s the feeling that is attached to unexpected downtime that I find difficult. How wonderful for your friend that she had you.

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      Me too Leora. But you probably expected that huh. I think we all struggle with that. If we could find a way past that struggle, can you imagine what we would do or accomplish?

  • http://necessityofchange.com Mary Stephenson

    We are inclined to put life on hold, even when we have this time to do something different. When one is not working and on a limited budget we don’t allow ourselves some simple pleasures.

    I have lots of things I want to do, but am stuck in a funk that keeps me from giving myself the time and permission to do so. Although I did do some baking in November and December for the creative side of me…but now I have to undo the damage of fun! But I really should get back into the creative fun that takes me out from in front of the computer screen and out of the kitchen.

    Never had a desire for making a bucket list…but I did love the movie. It makes you realize how much of life you let slip by.

    Great story to follow.

    Mary

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      That is a a struggle for many of us Mary. Wouldn’t it be nice if we could put our fears down for just a bit and do the simple pleasures that could make us happy? What are some thing you would do, aside from baking… LOL.

      • http://necessityofchange.com Mary Stephenson

        Drawing, using my embroidery machine, fix up the house to sell, etch glass, use my scroll saw. Yikes I think I do need to get out of this funk! lol

        • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

          I love your list Mary. I know you’ll find a way and have a great time when you do. Beside that list will give you some great things to have fun with. :-)

  • http://www.dianamarinova.com/ Diana

    How inspiring! Thank you, Susan, for this great post!

    I relate to the story as i was caught in similar situation 5 years ago when i was looking for a job and started freelancing “by accident”. Long story short – i am glad i was able to enjoy my free time, knowing i have done everything i could have done – even when it wasn’t looking good.

    I try to enjoy life as it comes; and i love traveling! But oddly enough – i don;t have a bucket list. I remember i found one which i did while in high-school – probably as part of an assignment or something. I have to find that list out – i wonder if i have crossed of many things off of it :-)

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      Thanks Diana, That is the key, to realize you have done all you can do and just let go and relax. When we do that we somehow find our way without all the frustration and fear that is associated with it. What was it that you did to put you in that frame of mind?

      • http://www.dianamarinova.com/ Diana

        Hm, good question. Not sure. I was stressing out a lot – all jobless, soon to be money-less, with the crisis hitting us hard and all. And then – i said, what the heck – stressing out or not, i AM doing everything i can. I might as well enjoy the ride 😀

        So i continued doing everything i can but better – i was calm, i took my time savoring the moment. When i had no projects to apply to – i read blogs, i read books, i attended webianrs; and when i was sick improving my skills – i was going out with friends, or to the movies, or just doing nothing – you know, every day weekend day kind of stuff 😀

        I had enormous moral support from my boyfriend, too – too bad he was too jobless at that time LOL – now we are freelancing and traveling together so it all worked out for the best, i think.

        • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

          I love that Diana, If y we do all we can and just let it go and enjoy our lives, things do seem to work out. It also helps that you had moral support form your boyfriend. It really can makes a difference. It did in my case too with my husband. :-)

  • Wendy Merron

    “The fact is we really do know what it is we want, but for some reason we find ourselves feeling guilty if we act on it and we do the things we think should do instead. This prevents us from spending time on the things that really matter.” Susan, this is a huge “Aha” moment for so many of us. Thanks for the reminder!

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      Hi Wendy, Thank you my friend. I hear you. We just don’t have our minds open enough to see it, do we. :-)

  • Carol Covin

    Great advice! A few years ago when I was in a career transition, I decided to make a 50-year plan for the rest of my life, because I didn’t want to wait until I retired, look around and have no idea what to do next. It has guided me ever since.

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      That is way cool Carol. many of never get past our daily to do list much less to do a 50-year plan. Way to go. :-)

  • bethany lee

    Funny. I have been thinking about asking you for a video visit just to catch up. Part of what you are saying here includes that sort of thing. Email me if you are willing :-)

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      Hi Bethany, I have been think about you too. I would love to catch up. Expect to see and email form me soon. :-)

  • http://joannerambling.wordpress.com/ Jo-Anne

    Ok I am not one to have a bucket list, but at the same time I do so get what you are saying, the older I get the more I want to do the fun things in life and enjoy things while I still can, although it isn’t all that easy since Tim has to work to make the money to do the things we would like

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      That seems to always be the case doesn’t it Jo-Anne? I do hope that you can find a way to enjoy the simple pleasures from time to time. :-)

  • http://chocolatour.net/ Doreen Pendgracs

    Susan: You and I have SO much in common! I, too, love the Bucket List movie. It is one of our favourites, and really does have a strong message. I think you know that I live every day as though it might be my last. I really try and embrace each day and find the jewel in it. As many of my goals (bucket list items) relate to travel, I know I can only do so much due to the limitations of time and $$. But slowly, I’m getting to each and every place that really matters to me. Cheers!

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      That we do. we are kindred spirits Doreen. You are such an inspiration for me. You never let something stop you from finding a way to realize your dreams, no matter how small or large. :-)

  • http://glynisj.com/ Glynis Jolly

    I’m more or less in between opportunities now. I haven’t frozen in place, thank God. I, also, haven’t been forcing things to happen. I learned long ago that the possibility of that working is slim to none. Yet, I can’t say that I’ve taken your third option either. I am a born and natural manipulator. I am that kid who makes lemonade when all I have is lemons.

    I want so much to be a professional writer/author. I don’t want it to be famous though. I just want to be able to write short novels/novelettes that people will enjoy. I would get such a high from that. Of course, forcing it just isn’t going to work, so I’m biding my time manipulating my situation with writing my blog and occasional articles.

    Yes, I’m stubborn.

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      I love that you are that way Glynis. Like anything that’s worth having, it can take a little time to figure out how to make lemonade out of your current situation. One thing is for sure, I am certain you will find a way and enjoy life while your doing so. :-)

  • jim adams

    I’ve had a bucket list for 19 years, before it was called a bucket list I guess, since I had cancer at the age of 21. The strange thing is most of them are so simple, pure and cost not a penny. Playing with my 3 year old boy, having a meal with my wife, feeling the rain on my face, seeing the sun through closed eyelids etc…. all on it and every one a cliche – but cliches exist for a reason.

    I ducked out of the Agency lifestyle so I could spend time with my newborn boy, I missed my daughter growing up as I was working so hard. This time I decided to do it different. Don’t get me wrong, I still work hard, i’m still driven, but I do it different. It doesn’t consume me. It doesn’t define me. Life’s so ridiculously short and as I’m speaking of cliches nobody lies on their deathbed and wished they had worked harder.

    Touched a chord this Susan, thank you, lovely post….

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      Hi Jim and welcome, I agree, who ever read a tombstone that said They were a hard worker and dedicated employee. I seriously applaud you for doing what you did. I’m sure life is much more interesting, rewarding and fun because of it. What do you do now?

  • http://www.breakfree.me/ Dan @ BREAKFREE.me

    What a great post for the new year. It’s amazing what you can see when you take a break… clear the head… and decide what you want to see in ilfe. I love the idea of a small bucket list full of things we can check off as soon as tomorrow!

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      Thanks Dan, You have done what most of us dream about and are afraid of doing. THAT took courage, and oh the rewards. A small bucket list is a great way to help build on what you really want to accomplish in life. I can’t wait to see what you do next. :-)

  • http://writespeaksell.com jeannettepaladino

    Well, one of my New Year’s resolutions was to have fun. I do a lot of things that make me happy: theater, ballet, symphony and duplicate bridge. Maybe too much! But I worked full-time with companies and agencies for so many years that I feel I’ve earned the right to take some time for myself. I honestly don’t feel guilty about it. Enjoyment and downtime is part of life — it’s not stepping out of life to smell the roses. Most of all I get joy from my friends and family. I am very blessed.

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      Hi Jeannette, You have done what many of us struggle doing. You have given yourself permission to enjoy life and all it has to offer. I want to be you when “I grow up”. What are some of the things that make you happy?

      • http://writespeaksell.com jeannettepaladino

        It’s funny, Susan, because I’m I’m a senior citizen and still growing up. The process never ends. Who knew that I’d end up specializing in social media and blogging and actually making money at it? It started as a challenge and something to master and it became fun and then it became a business. Like Yogi Berra, I saw a fork in the road I took it. I’d like to say I had some grand plan — and maybe I would have been more successful — if I did. But looking back on my life I did OK, ups and downs like everybody. Now I live for every day.

        • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

          I love that philosophy Jeannette. If we just do what’s right and live each day to the fullest, things just seem to work out. :-)

  • Jeri Walker-Bickett

    I’ve accomplished a lot of what was on my bucket list in terms of travel, education, and immersing myself in cultural activities. What is still missing is a sense of personal fulfillment in the work area of my life. As you know, I’m working on that!

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      Yes you have Jeri. Evert=thing is a transition form one thing to another. Once we allow things to unfold and not worry about “what’s next” we can usually see what we miss otherwise. :-)

  • Jacqueline Gum

    I loved the movie too. I’m not the only one who was affected by it, in terms of creating one of my own. I’m lucky to have traveled places I never thought I’d get to, but there are still some I long to visit. In terms of personal fulfillment, I’m working on that. As to my writing and publishing goals, I’m trying to take positive steps and let go of things I can’t control!!! Great reminder to update the list!!!

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      It is a movie I can watch and till cry at the end Jacqueline. When it comes to personal fulfillment, that is an area I certainly struggle with too. I find, like you, I first need to identify what I can’t control and let go of the rest. Good luck with your goals. I am rooting for your success. :-)

  • Cheryl Therrien

    I have a very small bucket list these days. Still haven’t figured out how to approach it, but this post is very helpful. :)

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      I with you Cheryl, Sometimes a small list is all one needs to help propel them to their ultimate desire. I know you find your way. :-)

  • http://www.garrettspecialties.com/ Arleen Harry

    I loved the movie “The Bucket List”. I also read a book with the same idea of red boots. Your bucket list doesn’t have to be something far out. I created a bucket list 6 years ago when I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I wanted to do everything I could. It has been interesting as I focus on the list and rarely think about the past. It is so rewarding to check off things on the list as you complete it. One of the things on the list was to start knitting again. I hadn’t knit in 20 years so I really didn’t think that one would happen.

    I am knitting again and loving it. It gets me off of the computer at night and I knit while I watch TV. I thought I was too busy to start. It never ceases to amaze me all the excuses I can come up with why I can’t do something.

    I am doing what is on my bucket list so have to keep adding. It is so much more fun to accomplish something then complain about doing nothing.

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      WOW Arleen. Talk about a motivator. I know what you mean about excuses. I find that in myself as well. the excuses usually starts with “I can’t because…”. I love that you have rediscovered your joy and passion for knitting, and that it pulls you away from the day-to-day grind. Bravo. :-)

  • Shirla

    This is a “biggie” for me. After the kids are adults, not yet “grown”, a sense of purpose that has taken a back seat for sooo long starts rearing its head more and more frequent…I, too, loved the movie.

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      I think it’s that way for many of us. When the kids are gone, we find the peace and space to allow our desires to finally surface and take root again. I am rooting for your success in that my friend.

  • Jon Jefferson

    Right now the things I lament (though briefly) are the things I have no control of. Instead of spending too much time worrying about those things I turn to the things I can control and work to see them come to pass.

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      I am so with you on this one Jon. The key is to know the difference between what we can and cannot control. you have learned how to do that and I think that’s awesome. So, how do you do that?… LOL :-)

  • Along Came Mary

    Love it! While I have yet to sit down & write down every single thing I want to accomplish, I definitely have had moments when I say, yay! I can mark this off the bucket list! Doing what we love is so important, & I am happy your friend went onto great things :)

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      Hi Mary. It really does feel good when we mark off a significant item from our bucket list. I find that when I do that, two more get added… LOL. My friend has done so well. She would not have imagined what she has accomplish at that time when we first talked. :-)

  • http://www.patricia-weber.com Patricia Weber

    That was a great movie! I love how you divided your bucket list up. Right now, there’s not a bucket list and that is because – we live it as we go. It’s like your two lists, but one of our is – what we wanted to wait to do that we did now. I’d have to think about what I would want on it but for me, I feel blessed to say, it would be a short list.

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      I love that Patricia. It keeps it elegantly simple and that is a very good thing. I think I will make that as the header of each of my lists and endeavor to keep them short and meaningful. :-)

  • http://keepupwiththeweb.com Sherryl Perry

    That was a great movie Susan. Thanks so much for the inspiration. I do not have a bucket list yet. There are things that my husband and I always say we want to do someday but we haven’t actually written them down. We should!

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      You’re so welcome Sherryl, It’s funny what happens to us when we commit our desires in writing. It’s as if our brains registers that these are important. When that happens, we find ourselves making plans. Good luck on creating your bucket list. :-)))

  • maxwell ivey

    Hi Susan; You nailed it again. My dad used to warn me that sometimes doing something just to take action is the worst thing possible. I once bought an inflatable ride called the airborne adventure because it was the only option to try to grow the small carnival we had at the time. It didn’t make money and was very hard to sell. So, when life gives you free time its doing so for a reason. I like to read. I get my books from the national library service for the blind, so they cost me nothing. But they bring me many hours of enjoyment. Lately I’m reading more biographies autobiographies and inspirational works than fiction, but I still read many novels too. On my bucket list short term would be to attend more concerts and other works of performing arts. And I miss the days when me and my dad would get in the truck and go for a ride to talk think or just sit there parked at the beach. take care, max

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      Hi Max, That is great advise form your Dad and a great lesson you gained from your own experience. You inspire me Max to reach beyond what I think my limits are. I know that you will achieve what you set out to do because of that.

      I too miss my dad for the many times we would set on the porch and just talk about stuff. sometimes is was important, sometimes it was just to enjoy each others company. :-)

  • Valerie Remy-Milora

    Beautifully said Susan! This is a lesson we need to learn and relearn and like you, I find that it is often in being of service to a friend that I realize I’ve distanced myself from a good habit. That’s probably one of the reasons I enjoy coaching so much; I receive while I give! I learned the importance of enjoying the moment at hand when I was a freelance video editor. While I worked I craved time off. Television is riddled with tight and often unrealistic deadlines that lead to endless days at work. But once the job is over and I had caught up on much needed sleep, I would find myself worrying about when or worst, if, the next job would come. So rather than make the most of my time off I would be stressed out day and night… until I learned my worth and realized that I could chose how much time off I wanted and discovered how truly wonderful it is to savor that precious “in between” time. Whether I would indulge in a morning of rock climbing with my husband or a few weeks in the South of France visiting my parents, I learned to treasure down time and be grateful that my line of work afforded me so much of it! Thanks for reminding me once again, to look at “down-time” with this positive mindset :-)

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      Aw thank you for your kind words Valerie, You captured what the essence of this post was perfectly. I agree with you, sometimes it takes helping someone else to see what we’ve been missing. Life is so good when we figure it out, whenever that happens. :-)

  • Debra Yearwood

    So well said Susan. I have been in that dark negative space and what a drag it is. I’ve actually gotten fed up of hearing myself complain and that takes real effort. :) So much better to step back and find some peace, do something that rewards you rather that punishes you. It is liberating.

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      Thanks so much Debra, It really is a drag, that’s for sure. I think we need to cause ourselves enough pain before we finally let it all go and relax enough to see the light. I am so glad you were able to find that peaceful place. :-)

  • maxwell ivey

    Hi Susan; Thanks for the kind words. I’m glad that I could inspire you and others. Me and my dad probably drove over a million miles moving carnival rides from one town to another. We listened to and sang along with a lot of country music by people like mural haggard george jones hank williams johnny cash etc. and my dad loved christmas. He was like having another kid around. He always said christmas presents are for the kids but christmas dinner was his present. smile Thanks for your confidence in me. I believe I’m going to get there too. I don’t know when or exactly how but with the help of friends like you and by the grace of God it will happen. Thanks again and take care, max

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      You are so welcome Max. I KNOW you’re going to reach AND exceed your goals my friend. :-)

  • Jason Butler

    I have a very large bucket list. It helps me stay focused and get things done. Hopefully I knock some more things off of it this year.

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      Good for you Jason. I wish you the best on realizing all that wish to achieve on your bucket list. What was it that spurred you on to create your bucket list?

      • Jason Butler

        Seeing older people I use to associate do nothing was a big reason. I have always been “different” than the majority of the people I grew up with. Having a bucket list opens you up to different experiences.

        • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

          Hi Jason, I can see that and understand your sentiments. I agree with you about having a bucket list. it really does make a difference with our life choices. :-)

  • babote

    Before my retirement, I had no free time, or so I thought. I had my counseling practice, an auto mechanic school, a modeling agency, and a christian book store. If I took time off, I became guilt ridden. Thirty four years later, my wife and I retired for good. Now we have all the time in the world. She’s an artist, now she paints, and decorates. I on the other hand, chose to write, and returned to the entertainment industry. We love the fact, that we don’t have to be tied to any particular thing. We go when we want to, and do whatever comes to mind. It’s a great life. Great post. Blessings.

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      Hi and welcome. It really is, once you get past the part about feeling you need to fill you time with stuff. I so love the fact that you are doing what you want, when you want and where. Bravo. :-)

  • Comaletha Stevenson

    I have always been a student until…I finally got the feeling that I was missing out on life! During my 2nd year as a doctoral student, I decided that I was tired of existing. Yes, a Capricorn wanted to stop being so reserved and live a little! I was convinced when my cousin asked me if trying to achieve my dream had become a nightmare.

    Although I had A’s and the semester was nearly over, I withdrew from my classes. I decided that I wanted to experience more in life. I was tired of always working on holidays and missing out on so much (living)! I thoroughly enjoyed your post because it reminded me why I am experiencing the joy of living more than ever! Thank you for sharing.

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      Hi Comaletha, (Love your name). Welcome. I hear you and feel the same. I am so happy that you enjoyed my muse and that you found it resonated with you. What was the rigger that got you to move a different direction?

  • Rebecca Thompson

    Right now I am wracked with guilt over my blog. I know I deserve a holiday, but it is eating me up that I am not on top of it. Can I trust my guests to reciprocate comments and even then how do the people who comment know that it is in reply to the guest post?
    It has seen me hit a point of resentment of the blog and how it has taken over my life.
    Funnily, on the flip side it would seem that it gives me something to get up for. That makes me see the positive when I am sick all the time.
    I need to take your advice and get past the guilt, get on with my holiday and try to work out a balance where I start living a life and blogging about it, rather than blogging about the life I’d like to have.

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      Hi Rebecca, I know what you mean and have felt what you felt. It’s not easy to make a conscious change in how we do things. There is no guarantee that it will be a success. However, it we don’t try we’ll never know. In your case give yourself permission to be happy in the life you dream about. I know that you will find what your looking for. Hugs, Susan

  • Pat Ruppel

    So true, Susan. We get so busy doing we forget to chill out and live. I haven’t seen the movie yet — I’ll add it to my bucket list (haha) as one to see.

    • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

      I agree Pat, We sometime we forget that it’s our life and we are in control sometimes. I know you will love this movie when you watch it. :-)

      • Pat Ruppel

        Thanks, Susan. We’ll look for it next time we rent movies.

        • http://findingourwaynow.flywheelsites.com/ Susan P. Cooper

          I know you’ll love it Pat. :-)

          • Pat Ruppel

            :-) Thank you — hope you have a happy weekend.

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